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Safety Before Strategy - The Missing Ingredient in High-Performance Conversations

by Tabitha Leonard
Apr 13, 2025
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HAPPY Monday, Achiever! 🙌

 

We often assume that strategy is the key to success.

If we plan well, map out the objectives, set clear KPIs, and hold regular meetings, we’ll drive results. Right?

 

Not always.

 

We forget that even the most brilliant strategy will collapse under the weight of silence.

If your team isn’t speaking up, challenging ideas, or offering perspectives from the front lines—you don’t have a strategy problem.

 

You have a safety problem.

 

A senior leader I worked with had everything mapped out to the letter.
The vision was compelling.
The roadmap was detailed.
The resources were lined up.
From the outside, it looked like a masterclass in strategic planning.

But inside the room?


Tension. Hesitation. And the sound of polite agreement—disguising deeper concerns no one felt safe enough to raise. 😟 

 

Every meeting felt like dragging a dead weight uphill. Decisions were made, but execution was slow. 

 

Feedback loops were thin. Momentum stalled.

 

It wasn’t until we shifted our focus from strategy to safety that things began to change.


We pressed pause on deliverables and leaned into deeper dialogue:

  • What are you really thinking—but hesitating to say?

  • Where are we missing the mark?

  • What would make it safer to speak up in this space?

 

At first, there was discomfort.


But then, something powerful happened: people started telling the truth.


Not in a hostile or defensive way—but with honesty, care, and courage.


They named blind spots in the plan.
They shared insights from the field.
They offered better ideas.

 

And that’s when everything shifted.

The strategy didn’t need to be redrafted.

It needed to be co-owned.

 

Once the emotional safety net was in place, ideas flowed, momentum built, and the initiative finally gained traction.

 

That’s when the leader looked at me and said something I’ll never forget:

“It wasn’t the plan that was broken. It was the conversation.”

 

Safety isn’t a fluffy ‘nice to have.’ It’s a strategic lever.

 

In high-performance environments, trust and psychological safety aren’t nice-to-haves—they’re the invisible foundations that everything else rests on.

 

They are the quiet forces that determine whether your team performs, innovates, or simply complies.

They shape whether conversations lead to progress or politeness… whether meetings unlock brilliance or bury it.

When people feel safe—emotionally, psychologically, and interpersonally—they bring their full selves to the table.

They take risks. They offer bold ideas. They challenge assumptions and contribute meaningfully.

They speak up not because they’re fearless—but because they know they won’t be punished for being honest, different, or wrong.

 

But when safety is missing—even subtly—self-protection kicks in.


People start filtering.


They scan for approval instead of offering insight.
They say what they think you want to hear, not what you need to hear.
They play small, stay quiet, and second-guess themselves—because the cost of vulnerability feels too high.

 

The irony?
Without safety, we don’t get high performance—we get high politeness.

And high politeness doesn’t lead to growth. It leads to stagnation, missed opportunities, and a whole lot of unspoken brilliance left on the table.

 

Safety is not the enemy of high standards.
It’s how we reach them—without silencing the very voices we need to get there.

 

Think of it this way:

  • High strategy + low safety = resistance, silence, mediocrity

  • Medium strategy + high safety = engagement, innovation, momentum

 

🔄 From Command to Connection

 

Tactical Communication Transformational Conversations Focused on outcomes Focused on outcomes and people Relies on advising/appraising Leverages inviting/inquiring Triggers defensiveness Builds trust and shared ownership Pushes for compliance Inspires contribution

 

🔁Three Micro Shifts to Move from Strategy-First to Safety-First Conversations

 

Small shifts. Big results.

 

Here’s how to create the kind of conversations that drive both trust and traction.

 

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